in-laws

[rdy2rac with]

So my hubby is going to have arthroscopic surgery on his knee pretty soon (I didn't even hear if we had a date yet). And he tells me that his dad offered to drive him to the hospital for it. DO THEY SERIOUSLY THINK I WOULDN'T TAKE THE DAY OFF OF WORK TO GO TO THE HOSPITAL FOR MY HUSBAND'S SURGERY? No matter how minor I would definitely be there from start to finish.

I may not be the domestic housewife goddess that my sister-in-law is. I know it seems like an abomination to them that I excitedly went back to work after both kids & never had any resistance to leaving my children with them (I trust them completely so why would I) but that doesn't make me heartless or uncaring for my family.

I just don't get the way these people think some times.

[jessilee82]

Perhaps it's less about thinking about being willing, and more about being able? Perhaps they thought, "this way she doesn't have to miss work for something little". I'm guessing. I don't know the whole story, but sometimes, taking time off isn't easy.

[SpringRain]

Yeah, it just sounds like a nice offer to me. I don't know any other details about your relationship with them, but just from what you've said above, I wouldn't have jumped to the conclusion that it's a backhanded insult or anything.

[BellaLuna]

I think my in-laws would have offered the same to their son knowing that we have a lot on our plates w/ small kids, and they mean no harm. Just trying to help.

[kesha]

sometimes i think that way and sometimes the opposite. sometimes my in-laws get on my nerves but then i try to calm myself and rationalize. like ask yourself 'what do they mean by that?' or if not just tell your father-in-law, "thank you for offering help but i would like to drive my husband to the hospital" then i'm sure they won't disagree with you.just a suggestion.

[rdy2rac with]

I am sure they didn't intend it as an offense, but they know that I can get time off really easily (especially for something like this). I harassed them about it a little at dinner yesterday. I told them I was going to dump hubby on his knees at the hospital & then have him call me when he's consious.

After that I mentioned that I was going to have hubby park his truck behind the fence since he wasn't going to be driving it anytime soon after the surgery (his truck has a 9 inch lift with 38 inch tires, so it's PRETTY BIG). I went on to mention that when he does start driving he'll have to drive mine for a while. So his mom says that he'll probably need to ride home in her mini-van (nice off yes). So I said nah, he'll be fine getting into my truck afterwards (not tall at all and still has a handle in case he needs it). To which his mom replies again that he'll need to ride home in her mini-van. Grrrrr! Sometimes I feel like I'm being looked at like a child with them. I know he's the baby of their family but he's a 36 year old married man now.

[tommysgirl18]

do you feel like this ?