Yesterday my child was playing with uncle and dropped the f-bomb out of nowhere and continued to say it over and over again. I dont know how to react. It happened again today. I am so upset by this. Help?????

Oh my...I think I would just firmly, but camly tell your child that it is not a nice word, and we don't use it. May take several times of telling them that, but I would try it first. B knows that some words are "bad", but has never used any of them. Not sure if he even knows WHAT those words are, just that there are words that are bad. He actually told me yesterday morning "Mama, some big kids say bad words...but we don't say bad words." I just agreed that "we sure don't, do we?"

Good Luck!!

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I agree with monkeygirl. I usually just say, "that is not a nice word and we don't use that word in this family." It usually ends up being some sort of discussion about how different families have different rules with M. With L the more I talk about not doing something, the more he does it. I hope it is just an age thing with L.

I agree. In the past with things like that, I've said something about it not being an okay word to say, that people don't like to hear it, and it's especially not okay for kids to use.

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I agree we always told the kids those are grown-up words, and they shouldn't use them. Once the shock factor is gone(cause people laugh or gasp) and you just calmly tell them each time 'remember that's a grown-up word, please don't say it' like it's not a big deal and the child will likely stop.

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It depends on how old your child is. If they are old enough to understand the difference between good and bad or nice and not nice, then I agree w/ the others. If they are unable to grasp that just yet, redirect and ignore. I don't always use the best language and E has repeated quite a bit , I usually say something like "Are you talking about a ship" or "What's damaged?" ....etc.... that usually makes him say it the last way he heard and it keeps my mom from kicking my bass Just tell him/her that it's pronounced "Duck" and go on about it. If your child is like mine, the more it gets a rise out of you the more it will get said.

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Krysti

I have done that at younger ages, too!

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DH has dropped some lovely words around G, and he repeated a few. I always try to reword it (repeat sentence and insert an appropriate word) or redirect it (when he's just saying something... I can't say I love this age ). Rewording seems to work well.

I have to admit, I swiped a phrase from a local radio DJ. He said his little girl dropped her popsicle and said "aww pickles!" It was cute, and G thinks it's funny.

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Ouch!!! If your child is old enough for reasoning then explain to him/her that that is a bad word and it should not be said.

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Jen

No it wasn't him. He was playing with my child at the time and heard it first. He was just as shocked and upset by it as I was. My child is becoming very defiant and will say the word more now because it upset me. DC is also repeating other undesirable words and it does not seem to matter what we say. I think you are all right about the reaction from me escalating the situation. DC likes to get a rise out of me. Maybe I should try a different approach and ignore it next time?